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POSTED 01 05 12

The history of the vibrator is rooted in the puritanical ethics of the Victorian Era. In Victorian society, an androcentric model of sexuality was the accepted norm, meaning that “sex” consisted only of the act of penetration to male orgasm. Anything else wasn’t considered sex. As practiced by most of society, it was robotic and pleasure-less, especially for women. You jumped in bed, the old man hid the salami, and with a couple of strokes the deed was done. The heavenly mandate was met. Sex was for procreation, not recreation.

Obviously not very satisfying for the woman. Of course, in Victorian Society it wasn’t accepted that “proper” women had any sexual desire, much less that they were capable of orgasm. If they did have an orgasm, it was to be solely through heterosexual coitus. Given that we now know that less than 50% of women can reach orgasm through penile penetration alone, that left a lot of frustrated women out there (not even including the ones with 5-second willies for husbands). We can only imagine all of the pent up tension. As a female acquaintance once told me, “If I don’t get laid pretty damn quick, somebody’s gonna get hurt.”

When a woman showed signs such as fainting, hyperemia, nervousness, insomnia, sensations of heaviness in the abdomen, muscle spasms, shortness of breath, loss of appetite for food or for sex with the approved male partner, and sometimes a tendency to cause trouble for others (particularly members of the patient’s immediate family), irritably, anxiety, sexual yearnings, excessive vaginal promptly diagnose her with Female Hysteria. Based on the ancient Greek idea of a wandering womb seeking its proper place, female hysteria was a very common catch-all diagnosis. Using the wandering womb analogy, doctors sometimes said it was caused by a woman’s inability to find her proper place in the world. Women who were too smart, too athletic, too ambitious, or were not sufficiently condescending were commonly diagnosed with hysteriaSo the cure? In one of the most bizarre twists in history, women diagnosed with hysteria visited the local doctor, who induced hysterical paroxysm - what we call an orgasm. How was this feat accomplished? The good doc just reached down there and manually massaged the clitoris until he brought the women to orgasm - excuse me, hysterical paroxysm. Since this didn’t involve penetration, the Victorians didn’t consider it sex, so it was ok. In fact, the introduction of the speculum and the tampon created more controversy. Imagine legions of Victorian men taking their wives to the town doc to get a hand job, and paying the doc for it! The mind is an amazingly malleable thing.

It is reported that with some doctors, pelvic massage treatments comprised more than half their business. With this kind of demand it was only natural that with the beginning of the machine age, a device would be built to decrease their work and increase their profits. During the 1860s, health spas offered water jets and steam-powered vibrators. More modern vibrators appeared in the 1880s. By 1900, a wide selection of electro-mechanical vibrating devices was available, ranging from hand or foot powered models to those powered by air pressure, water turbines, gas engines, batteries,and street current (through lamp socket plugs).

Soon many low-cost vibrators were being marketed in respectable women’s magazines using language that seems clearly aimed at promoting sexual gratification, such as “...all the pleasures of youth will throb within you.” The Swedish Vibrator Company of Chicago extolled its device as a machine that gives “30,000 thrilling, invigorating, penetrating, revitalising penetrations per minute.” In 1918, Sears Roebuck advertised vibrators in its catalog, “very satisfactory, an aid every woman appreciates.”

The vibrator’s social camouflage in mainstream publications lasted into the late 1920s, when use by physicians began to diminish. Some speculate that the diminished used was attributed to a greater understanding by the medical profession of female sexual functions;
Still, God bless the 60s when vibrators resurfaced again with a vengeance. This time, however, they emerged as unabashed sexual toys. Women’s sexuality has been depressed (hell it wasn’t even acknowledged) for almost 2,000 years.

POSTED 02 04 12

Oral Sex

To dream that you are giving or receiving oral sex signifies your willingness to give or receive pleasure/joy. It is symbolic of your creative energy and reaffirms that you are headed in the right direction in life.  The dream may also be a pun on ” talking about sex.” Perhaps, you need to communicate with your mate about your sexual needs and desires. Or you are acting out your sexual wishes.
To dream that you are performing oral sex on yourself represents your need for self-gratification.

Orgasm

To dream that you are having an orgasm represents an exciting end to something. What have you just completed in your life? Alternatively, the dream means that you are not getting enough sex. You need to relieve some of your sexual tensions. 
To dream that you do not achieve orgasm signifies some frustration in your life. Something is leaving you unfulfilled and unsatisfied. Note that the frustration may not necessarily be sexually related.

Anal Sex

To dream about anal sex represents submission. You may be afraid to yield to the wants and desires of others.

Breasts

To see breasts in your dream symbolizes primal nourishment and your need to be nursed and care for. It represent motherhood, nurturance, and infantile dependency. Alternatively, breasts represents sexual arousal and raw energy.

Bisexual

If you are not bisexual and dream that you are, then it may indicate some sexual repression. You may be trying to

Ejaculation

To dream that you are ejaculating, represents your need for release. You can no longer contain yourself, either emotionally or sexually. Alternatively, it signifies a loss of control and power.

Erection

To dream that you have an erection, symbolizes your creative power and energy. You want to take action. Alternatively, if you are a mman and dream of an erection, then it suggests a fear of impotence or sexual dysfunction.

Masturbation

To dream that you are masturbating represents your unacknowledged and unexpressed sexual needs/desires. It may also indicate you need to take care of yourself in sensual or emotional ways which are not necessarily sexual. Or perhaps, you may need to put forth a little more effort toward some relationship.
To see others masturbating in your dreams denotes your anxieties and concerns about your inhibitions. It may also be a reflection that something in your waking life is not as satisfying as it could be. Keep in mind that this dream may not necessarily represent sexual inhibitions or satisfaction, but  may be analogous to some situation or relationship

Wife Swapping

To dream about wife swapping suggests that you are in a rut and want to add some spice to your sex life. You want to be more sexually adventurous. Consider the couple who you are swapping with for additional significance.

POSTED 29 02 12

A nocturnal emission involves either ejaculation during sleep for a male, or lubrication of the vagina for a female. It is also called a wet dream, and is sometimes considered a type of spontaneous orgasm.Nocturnal emissions are most common during adolescence and early young adult years. However, nocturnal emissions may happen any time during or after puberty. The emission may happen with or without an erection, and it is possible to wake up during, or to simply sleep through, the ejaculation. Though nocturnal emissions are commonly associated with men, women also have them.

Some men have the dreams only at a certain age, while others have them throughout their lives following puberty. The frequency that one has nocturnal emissions has not been conclusively linked to frequency of masturbation. Alfred Kinsey found there may be some correlation between the frequencies of masturbation and the frequencies of nocturnal wet dreams. In general the males who have the highest frequencies of nocturnal emissions may have somewhat lower rates of masturbation.
Some of these males credit the frequent emissions to the fact that they do not masturbate but it is just as likely that the reverse relationship is true namely that they do not masturbate because they have frequent emissions.

One factor that can affect the number of nocturnal emissions men have is whether they take testosterone-based drugs. In a 1998 study by Robby C, the number of boys reporting nocturnal emissions drastically increased as their testosterone doses were increased, from 17% of subjects with no treatment to 90% of subjects at a high dose.
During puberty, 13% of males experience their first ejaculation as a result of a nocturnal wet dream emission. Kinsey found that males experiencing their first ejaculation through a nocturnal wet dream were older than those experiencing their first ejaculation by means of masturbation.
The study indicates that such a first ejaculation resulting from a nocturnal emission was delayed a year or more from what would have been developmentally possible for such males through physical stimulation.

In Women The frequency of nocturnal wet dreams is highly variable, just as with men.

POSTED 01 02 12

Sex is better with lube so says a new survey carried out by condom makers Durex.

The explosive secret that lubricants are the sexy, simple ingredient for mind-blowing sex is confirmed by a massive nine out of 10 women.
In the the survey 89 per cent of women said sex was far more pleasurable with lubes, with more than three quarters of women users saying Durex Play lubricants made foreplay saucier and more exciting for them and their partner, while 76 per cent of women were amazed by the difference lubricants made to sex.

The results validate what we have known for years - lubes are simply the best way to spice up your sex life, and if there are any doubters out there a study from Indiana University and published in the journal for the International Society for Sexual Medicine, adds some heavyweight backing to the UK statistics.
The study found that lubricants play important role in enhancing sexual enjoyment, and are now used for more than simply increasing lubricationThe study found that lubricants play important role in enhancing sexual enjoyment, and are now used for more than simply increasing lubrication.

Researchers found the majority of women (33 per cent) and men (41 per cent) applied lubricant to their partner, indicating that lubes are now a key part of foreplay.
The researchers said lubricant significantly increased sexual pleasure and satisfaction for all women, including those who had never experienced vaginal dryness.
Tantalise your lover with a drizzle of Durex Play’s unique lubes - every touch will become more sensual and your senses will be heightened, a sure-fire way to bring things to an explosive ending.

Want the delicious taste of strawberry or cherry, or may be you’d rather savour the calorie-free taste of pina colada or passion fruit. With Durex Play range of flavoured lubes you can have that too.

Want to heighten that tingling sensation the try Durex Play Tingle. Or if you want to turn up the heat, try Durex Play Warming. Simply apply to your partner and blow gently - you will be hit with smooth, warm sensation that heightens sensitivity and pleasure.  Durex lubricants come in a variety of types - Passion Fruit, Sweet Strawberry, Very Cherry, Pina Colada, Warming, Tingle, Aloe Vera, and Feel.

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